In the realm of leadership, I've discovered that it's not about wielding power or orchestrating commands. It's about something far deeper—a profound connection with the people you lead and an unwavering commitment to personal and collective growth. As I reflect on my journey, three invaluable lessons stand out, each etching a mark on my heart and shaping my perspective.

Lesson 1: People Are Assets, Not Tools

When I first stepped into a leadership role, I admit my focus was on achieving goals and ticking off tasks. After all, on the DISC profile, I’m a high D. But soon, I realized that a true leader's role transcends transactions; it's about building relationships. Every individual on my team was a unique asset, possessing talents, dreams, and aspirations. Embracing this truth transformed my approach. Not right away though. I had to lose a friend before I got it. He told me: “I can’t follow your pace and often, I feel like you use me to obtain what you want”. I didn’t appreciate and yet, he was right. I had to change. I began to listen more, encourage diverse perspectives, and nurture an environment where collaboration was not just a buzzword, but a way of life. I wanted to empower my teammates, equip them so they could accomplish what they wanted and need to achieve. Witnessing the beauty of collective brainstorming and witnessing the growth of my team members has been more rewarding than any project milestone.

Lesson 2: Leading Yourself is the Ultimate Challenge

The paradox of leadership lies in the delicate balance between guiding others and navigating our own paths. Often, I found myself so engrossed in steering the ship that I neglected the captain—I neglected myself. I was the leader after all. I must be right, I must know the answer. It hit me hard: how could I inspire if my own flame was flickering? Thus began the arduous yet liberating journey of self-leadership. Cultivating self-discipline became a daily ritual. Embracing failures as stepping stones to growth became my modus operandi. As I honed my inner landscape, I discovered that authentic leadership emanates from a place of self-awareness and a commitment to continuous self-improvement.

Lesson 3: Enjoy Perks, Pay the Price

Leadership bestows rewards that paint life in vibrant hues. Yet, beneath the surface, lies the underpinning truth: every accolade is an outcome of countless sacrifices and relentless dedication. It's akin to climbing a mountain—each step forward offers a new perspective, but each step demands effort. Celebrate achievements, revel in the perks, but never forget the nights burnt at both ends, the countless hours strategizing, and the weight of responsibility that comes with leadership. Embracing this reality fosters gratitude and fuels the fire of determination to keep moving forward.

In weaving these lessons into my leadership journey, I've found a deeper purpose—one that extends beyond the confines of a title or a position. It's a purpose rooted in connection, growth, and humility. The pursuit of effective leadership is not a destination; it's a continuous journey, one that shapes us as much as we shape it.

So, to all fellow leaders and aspiring leaders, remember: your team is made of indicvidual that want to succeed, your self-leadership is the beacon that guides, and the rewards you reap are a testament to the seeds of dedication you sow. Embrace these lessons with an open heart, and let them guide you towards a leadership journey that is not just impactful, but also profoundly fulfilling.